I've always thought of my obesity as weight I need to lose. Today, I was resting and I realized what I should instead be focusing on - I don't want to reduce my weight any longer. I want to gain muscle mass. That should be my focus. Till now I've always shunned the idea of gaining muscle, thinking it can be a side product of my quest to lose weight.
But I realize now that I should take weight loss as the side product. The nice to have. Only by doing this can I be free of the bad decisions that plague my health.